What Kerry Washington Did Right That Gabrielle Union Did Wrong

Real Talk!

Now.

I'm not trying to put Gabrielle Union and Kerry Washington in the same category.

Kerry is an A-list actress.

Gabrielle is an B-list actress.

However, I can't help but to compare the two actresses, since they have tried out for a lot of the same roles. They're about the same age. There are a lot of similarities between them. With that said, when I think about their personal lives. The reason Kerry Washington is smarter than most women in Hollywood is that she keeps her personal life private. 

She doesn't put it on display. She stays out of the public eye and lives a very low-key life. When she got married, everyone was shocked because they didn't know she was dating anyone. The football player she married allegedly had drama with an ex-wife as well. Kerry was accused of stealing him from her too. 

We didn't hear about this though because again.....Kerry lives a very private life! 

I only wish that Gabrielle took notes from Kerry. Maybe, if she did. Her business wouldn't be plastered all over the internet and tv right now. 

Let me point out all the things Kerry did right: She never flashed her engagement ring on Instagram.  She never spoke about her dating life. After she married her husband, she still didn't talk about him in interviews. She only did press for her tv show and award shows. And, when people talk about Kerry. It's always about her styles on the red carpet. There was nothing else for the press to say about her! 

And look at her now! She's married with a baby on the way and living an ideal life.....IN PRIVATE!

There is much to say about private people 'regular people' who don't put their relationships on blast on Facebook or Twitter...or where ever else. These days it just seems wise not to flaunt it, but instead cherish it. Like your best kept secret!

There is something extremely special and sort of fun about keeping your relationship under the lid. Like it feels so special that you don't want to share it out of selfishness....because if you do, then it's not so special anymore.

I'm just saying. 

Maybe, that sounds ridiculous to some of you. These days though? I think it's wise.

*To add more to this, when we make our relationships public. We give others the opportunity to not only question us, but attack us for the decisions made in our relationships.

How dare you catch an attitude with me?! Because I asked what happened between you and that hot man you were dating! You put that relationship out there.

Not me!

You didn't mind when I asked about the two of you in those cute pictures all over the country. So, don't mind when I ask about it now!

One more thing.

I'm sure many of you will agree with me on this one too.....is that those in the most loving and successful relationships don't proclaim their love for each other all over social media.

The couples who seem to be a bit incomplete though. They're proclaiming their love all over the place! With posts like, "OMG! I love my wife and babies soooooooooo much! I'm so blessed." Then 30 minutes later...sending old flames messages asking them to meet up, because they're unhappy.

Things that make you go....."hmmmmmm!"

The TLC Biopic: CrazySexyCool

I have one question after watching TLC's biopic last night!

How many TLC songs did you listen to after the movie ended?????

My answer is five.

I played Waterfalls, Creep, Baby Baby Baby, No Scrubs, and Unpretty on my Itunes for the rest of the evening.

They really were one of the best female R&B groups of all time!!!!

I loved hearing their story.

Some surprising and slightly disturbing things I learned from the movie:

1) Left Eye had a serious drinking problem! Not sure if I ever remember hearing about this in the past. I just remember her burning down her ex-boyfriend's house -- from that I guessed she was wild. Had a drinking problem though? Thought never crossed my mind. She seemed way crazier and emotional than I imagined her to be too.

2) Chili had an unhealthy obsession with having a baby at such a young age! That really irked me. She made it seem like it was her life's dream to be a mother.....when she was living the dream as one of the biggest R&B groups of all time! Did anyone else find that kind of sad? Then when she finally gave birth to the second baby by the Dallas Austin guy...she was like, "Yeah, I don't want you anymore. Peace!" Like a baby was really the only thing she wanted from him. Her obsession with him sort of annoyed me too....because he's not even cute. Like at all. Not to mention, Evan Ross played him -- and looks a thousand times more better than looking than Dallas Austin. I mean, if he really looked like him...maybe, I wouldn't be like ewwww. But look at him! Why is his head so long?  And, he should keep his mouth closed. He might look less dense that way.

3) Pebbles sounded like the Devil Wearing Prada! She was all cut-throat and what not. Did anyone peep that she seemed a bit jealous of Chili in the movie? Hence her trying to throw her out of the group. That seemed like a petty woman move right there! And then, her buying them Rav4's when they went platinum! I mean, huh? And with their own money too!? I mean, wow!!!

Then the jokes about all of TLC's money being spent on her spoiled chubby son's sweet sixteen party! I can't. So wrong!

And this meme.....circulating the web. I die laughing every time I see it. And, it's not funny. It's really sad! The Rav4's they gave them looked used too. Just like this one. Haha! So wrong.

4) Oh, and let's not forget about "Married Larry," Left Eye's ex-boyfriend who was influencing all of her bad decisions in the group. I mean because....married or not. Did y'all see this photo of him?? Married Larry was fine!!! No wonder her judgement was blurred. Mine might be a little bit too.

I like this movie so much! I might actually watch it again tomorrow.

I wish that T-Boz revealed the abuse between her and Mack 10 in the movie. Heard it was going on for a long time....but I do appreciate how strong she has been battling Sickle Cell Anemia for her entire life. I can't even imagine Doctors telling me my life expectancy and what I won't be able to do.

This was truly an inspirational movie....telling you to stand up and take control of your life. Don't let anyone stop you from your dreams and goals. And, the reminder of how precious life can be.

*R.I.P. - Lisa "Left Eye" Lopes

Mr. Jada and Mrs. Will Smith

I am up early again!

I need a horse tranqulizer or something because this going to bed late...waking up early is getting out of hand. I need to move Seoul now. I am way too anxious.

And what do I find on the internet this morning? This picture of Jada and Will Smith.

Is there something odd about this image to you?

How about the fact that Jada is sitting in that chair with her legs wide open...like she's searching yonder for her next box to eat out. Or the fact that Will has his legs crossed with his hand on his knee...beaming with his gay face?

I feel like both of their postures should be reversed.

Her legs should be closed and crossed, regardless of wearing pants or not...and Will needs to stop smiling so hard and ease up on that tight ass leg cross.

Now, I am no expert on frank and beans...but I am pretty sure most men prefer a loose leg cross to avoid the squishing and suffocating of their man parts.

So, why is Will crossing his legs like me?! Legs crossed so tight...you're practically doing the pretzel twist.

You know when your legs are crossed over so far, you look fucking ridiculous?

And you leave a leg print on your thigh from your other leg. And it really isn't comfortable. It just makes you look awkward.....like a tight ass.

I do it! When freezing or extremely uncomfortable which is like all the time when strangers sit too close to me in public areas. I mean that's when it's appropriate to cross your legs that tight.

You see.

I just don't buy their union. Everyone has heard the rumors about them being swingers...Will banging baby male prostitutes...Jada eating the box. And I mean. Is it me? Or does Jada look more and more like a lesbian every year?? I swear it's like some sort of transformation for some lesbians who take a minute to come out...we all saw how Cher's daughter transformed from gay woman to a straight up man over the years.

Now.

Don't get me wrong. I am a huge supporter of the gays.

Love love love them!

If I had to choose a life partner? I would pick a gay boyfriend over a husband any day.....they are prettier, better companions, more stylish, and extremely expressive. If I had a son? I would be proud if he was gay. Gay men make up one of the largest groups of successful men in this country.

What annoys me though? When people front and hide behind their beards. I think Will and Jada are one of those couples too. One of my former students in Baltimore city has a parent who went to school with Jada. She said that back in the day Jada hung with a lesbian crew...but guessed she liked men now since she married Will.

I mean, huh?

How are you gay one minute then straight the next? Please! I don't give a damn who you marry...or who you think you're fooling. Your actions speaker louder than saying "I do" to your beard. Now. These people who marry beards don't have to share their business with any of us. I get it!

But can Will and Jada do everyone a favor and stop acting like their shit is legit?

Just be straight forward about it.

You've been married for a long time because you're stepping outside of your relationship to satisfy your needs, period.

They should stop giving black folks false hope about a healthy lasting black marriage...because theirs does not count.

I hear stories about couples who get married all the time...one is gay and the other is straight. They truly love each other because they are best friends...I believe this situation is okay because nobody is stepping outside of the relationship for anything...bringing home diseases.

A long time ago, I dated a guy who was gay. He's the type of gay who will never come out of the closet and appeared straight until you got into a serious conversation with him...then started to notice the signs. My guy friends teased about how gay he was...even my gay guy friend. I loved him to death regardless. He was my best friend. Almost every aspect of our relationship was like girlfriend and boyfriend except for the the fact that we did not have sex...and it was very platonic. I knew he was gay. He knew I knew he was gay...and I was okay with this.

He doted upon me like a princess. Let me be the center of attention. Thought I was the funniest person alive. Never once stared at me like I was a lunatic, when I had a 'Carrie' meltdown over items in our luggage being stolen on vacation...or getting lost on the road. He gave me the best compliments. Was there when I needed him...and gave space when I needed it. His parents loved me. He didn't mind that I was the black girl from Connecticut that could be a little snotty either, because he was a bigger snob than me.

If he weren't such a uppity negroe? Or peeped out hot guys in the store too? We might have lasted a couple more years as besties pretending to be girlfriend/boyfriend. But that and taking our relationship too far with talk about marriage...babies...and working for his parent's company upon graduating college became too real.

I wanted to be with him. But not like that, and not forever.

So.

I get these people in make believe unions who marry their best friends better than anyone.

If I weren't a secret pervert fascinated with frank and beans, I would have married a guy who use to be my best friend too.

I still think hiding who you are and stepping outside of your marriage to cheat openly or secretly is wrong though.

It's unsafe and defeats the purpose of being in a monogamous union.

If you have to fake the funk, you should just remain single.

Boris Kodjoe Needs 8 Clones

Why?

He is handsome. Down-to-earth. I have about seven girls who would appreciate a  Boris clone...including me, of course!

[*Correction: I only have six girls who want a Boris clone. One just told me he is not cute because of the shape of his head]

[blank stare]

And more importantly? He knows exactly how to be a man!

In Twitter World actress and tv personality, Claudia Jordan, tweeted that her mother said to marry a rich ugly producer. Since she is having issues finding a quality man to date in LA.

In response to her tweet Boris Kodjoe wrote: “Why he gotta be ugly? Honestly, I think LA is cancerous for relationships. The hustle mentality and ‘gotta make it’ attitude keeps people from cultivating a real connection. No one has time to take anyone in. Everyone is self-centered and wants to ‘keep it moving’ Dudes here are so insecure that they have to switch up a girl every week to hide their ‘weaknesses’. A real man embraces them!”

When I first read this?

I thought to myself, "Wow! An attractive man who stood up and basically said some of us do have substance. Get it right! Oh, and  let me explain what's the real problem here....BAM!"

Then he started his own thread on the traits a real man possesses. He named the topic #How2baMan and this is what he said:

"Embrace your imperfections.

Laugh at yourself. A woman likes a man who doesn’t take himself too serious.

Fix or build something with your hands. It’ll show her that you are capable of taking care of a home.

Know how to cook and clean. It’ll show her that you don’t need her but that you WANT her.

Get your passport and travel. A man needs to see the world.

Communicate without cursing. You don’t need to curse to make a point. Cursing shows lack of substance.

In bed, take care of your woman first. When she’s satisfied you are DA MAN!!!

Stay in shape. It’ll show her that you care about yourself and therefore are able to care about her.

Take care of your responsibilities. Anything less is unacceptable. A boy is irresponsible, not man.

Open her her door and pull out her chair. It shows her that you honor traditional values. Trust me, she will do the same.

Be present! Take her in with your eyes and ears. Your attention will make her feel loved and she won’t ever nag you.

Read a f—ing book! (Sorry, violation of ‘no cursing’ rule) But seriously, ignorance is a major turn-off. Book on tape will do.

Have an ambition. You don’t need to be rich but you need to show direction and motivation. Keep a job!

Last one for today: Treat a woman the way you would want your daughter to be treated. Anything less is unacceptable."

In my opinion? He is right on point!

Everything he said about men being insecure is so true! It's not just men though. It's us too. We ALL act insecure at times...put up walls...act too into ourselves to be into anyone else. Some of us don't even know how to make room for anyone else but ourselves!

It's me me me...and rightfully so at times.

This problem of connecting isn't just in LA either. It happens here in Dc....Nyc, Chicago, and Miami.

This basically occurs in fast pace cities with large populations of singles and plenty of attractive mates to keep them this way!

I honestly feel that these types of places are not conducive to building relationships with new people....because there are too many people and too many things going on to hold your attention or anyone else's. I don't see how anyone could possibly get a good nights sleep living in any of these places either....let alone be in a relationship. There just seems like too much to do and see in these places. I said this to my girlfriend who lives in Nyc not too long ago...and she agreed!

When I think about qualities I want in a man...or what a man should possess? They are the same qualities that I should be able to offer in return or accomplish myself. They should never be outrageous demands though...like he must read books...must watch Channel 3 News....must eat healthy.....must workout!

I do these things. But it doesn't mean he has to! He isn't me...and he shouldn't be my puppet either.

Some of us want a mate with a certain lifestyle. One that's maybe healthy...ambitious....or low-key. It makes sense if that's your thing! But we should be living this particular lifestyle already, no?

I mean.

If we aren't living that way, why do we expect our mate to?

Ice T

If you have no idea who Ice T is? You must be living under a lonely rock.

This man has touched upon every role in show biz over a span of 27 years!

He started off in the army...then turned into a real life pimp...dabbled in gang banging...and then decided to be a professional rapper...record producer...screenwriter...actor...and has lent his voice to a couple video games too.

If you don't listen to rap music? Don't feel bad. You may be too young to remember his music.

What you might remember though? Is his role as the cool cop who went undercover to arrest a drug lord in New Jack City. "Rock-a-bye, Baby." Best movie ever!

Nowadays? You can watch him on Law and Order: Special Victims Unit. Or his reality show Ice Loves Coco which features his six year marriage to his wife who seems pretty down-to-earth...despite her astronomic butt and breast size...that would lead you to believe she is shallower than a kiddie pool...and he must be pimping her out Holiday Inn style.

I mean the date he ended pimping was never clear, right? Not to mention that he always surrounded himself with women who looked like Coco...half naked and what not.

Who knows what these people do for shits and giggles when they get bored? Play golf. Go fishing. Pimp some hoes.

 So.

Why is he one of the funniest human beings?

How about this:

"When you're a light skin brother with gray eyes, you just don't walk around smiling!"

Or this:


"When Ice gets romantic? He says things like, bitches blow their motherfucking ear drums out! Trying to reach your level."

And this one too:


"Lindsay Lohan goes to court more than the fuckin gangsters and gangbangers I know…slow down homegirl."

During President Obama's campaign for presidency in 2008, he told everyone that he wasn't endorsing him. In fear that his association with our president would hurt his campaign. So, instead he would vote for McCain. Ha!

The minute Soulja Boy's music invaded our radios with that 'crank that soulja boy' nonsense. Ice T reminded the entire country that Soulja Boy's music is garbage. He is destroying hip hop...then he told Soulja Boy to eat a dick.

I found this twitter beef on the Web a while ago:



I mean, only real gangstas go in hard on innocent little white girls this way. I love him even more for the ruthlessness! It is so cold. He gives mercy to no one!

I feel like he coined the phrase 'eat a dick' too.

I look forward to hearing what he says next, because it's always something wild.

Mayweather Burning Money

I found this picture of Floyd 'Act Like a Coon' Mayweather setting a $100 bill on fire at an Atlanta club.

One word: ninjas!

Here we are in the middle of a recession...and here goes this fool burning money in the club. Not a one or five dollar bill either...but a $100 bill!

Can someone please explain what the hell is wrong with this man? And yes, I have an attitude because I am hating!

And why are the folks around him in the picture smiling?? That shit is NOT funny....like ever. Only coons support other coons to partake in activities like this. But I have to admit, I am really surprised that one of the THIRSTY women surrounding him didn't tackle his ass for it and run. I'm just saying. We all know how thirsty groupies act on a daily basis.

Oh, and burning money is suppose to be a federal offense too, no? I really hope someone sends this picture in and they arrest his stupid donkey ass!

It's one thing to make it 'Rain on Hoes,' because they can feed their babies, pay their way through college, and waste it on material objects instead of paying their bills. But this fool up here is burning money!

Let's talk for a second about what $100 can do for the average person. How about those two credit card bills? Or an oil and filter change with a tire rotation and an alignment? What about a visit to the hair salon in the hood to get your weave did? Because we all know the good ones cost over $100. Or what about groceries for two weeks? Of course, if you're single and eat nothing like me. Or how about those parking tickets? Because it's just a matter of time before they put that boot on your car! I am just saying. There are so many things you can do with $100.

Maybe, I am making a big deal about this....but it JUST feels wrong and insensitive to burn money when people are out of work and losing their homes left and right. It's a slap in the face....and a clear indication why so many ninja athletes run out of money over time.

We forget that kids actually look up to these fools.

TAKERS

Let me tell you something! Before you take a deep breath and tell me that I lost it...Takers was a good movie!

Trust me.

But you want to know something funny? I just knew it was going to be a low budget film. I would get a couple of good laughs out of it. Then it would end up playing on BET at midnight...and it would slip away into non-existence.

Negative!

For one. There was too much beauty in this film to call it a bad movie. The tall and handsome Idris Elba was in it...hello! And then cutie pies, Michael Ealy and Chris Brown who played the most loving and loyal brothers ever. Followed by one of the finest looking white guys ever, Paul Walker. I don't care what anybody says because he can get it! I do the chocolate swirl.

Did you notice that I didn't mention T.I. or Hayden Christensen?

Hmm.

It's because T.I. looks so skinny and gross around the mouth....like he smoked too many glass pipes. I think it's funny how Rap Stars are so appealing to women. They know damn well, they wouldn't find them attractive if they weren't Stars. And Christensen? He looks like a pretty girl playing dress up in boys clothes. I suppose I'd like him if I were into women.

Sorry, but it is true.

The best parts of the movie? The chase scene between Chris Brown and the cops. It was pretty awesome! I was freaking out during this scene...praying the cops wouldn't catch him. He was fast as hell...or maybe his stunt double was? Not sure. But I completely forgot he was a woman beater, because he played this young kid brother who liked girls and riding his motorcycle. There was nothing not to like about his character!

Another favorite scene of mine? It was when Chris Brown and Michael Ealy hugged it out in their home...I get very sentimental about sibling love. I most definitely teared up during this part, yup. There is nothing like the love you have for your family members.

T.I. impressed me a lot though. I always thought he looked extra skeevy and dirty in real life...so no surprise, he played the same part in this movie. He radiated 'I'm a villan' from beginning to end...and he really was perfect for the role. I saw his interview on Chelsea Lately a while ago though, and he seemed very cool, down-to-earth, and he smiled and joked a lot with Chelsea. It surprised me. He didn't come off that way in his music videos...I think that Rappers should lighten up. Smile more. Laugh more. They would be perceived differently if they did.

The hot and sexy scenes in the movie? When Paul Walker was getting it on with some girls in his pool and Idris Elba was getting out of his bed in his underwear. I wouldn't have thought these sex scenes were so sexy years ago though. I use to make fun of women who would go insane and start screaming over a man who took his shirt off or was standing in his underwear....like what the hell are you screaming for? He's not even naked. I don't see a penius...a ball. Nothing. What is all the hoopla about? I get it now though. The older you get, the more attractive things about the opposite sex become...the back, legs, stomach.  Basically body parts nobody gave a shit about before become a hell of a lot more attractive!

The pointless parts of the movie? Idris Elba's drug addict sister...they could have done without her role. But I do appreciate that she showed a soft side to his personality. Zoe Saldana's role irked me too. She basically played the chick who abandoned her ex in jail (T.I.) to be with Michael Ealy...one of the crooks who got away when T.I. did not. T.I. rightfully so had a reason to be mad when he got out of jail. He didn't snitch on his old crew and one of the members stole his girl! But damn. He didn't have to kill her and destroy the crew because of it. He only served 4 years in jail for them, not 20! Good Lord. Not to mention that he had money and everything else set up for him upon leaving jail. Bitter much? Money hungry much?

If you are a fan of action movies with some robbery and gangster scenes...rent this one!

Of if you like attractive men. Rent it!

The Evolution of Lil' Baby Waynes

"I don’t make sense yadda yadaaaaa." - Lil' Wayne

Not too long ago, I went to a night club called Josephines in Washington DC. It was there that I encountered my very first Lil' Baby Wayne...complete with a crisp white tee, dreads, shades, platinum teeth, platinum chains, and tattoos galore. We met in the VIP section. I was standing below him on the floor, like most civilized people do inside of clubs, and he was standing upon the booth dancing with his friends. He began harassing me with a series of annoying questions...beginning with my age and ending with 'where we going for our first date?' I laughed at him, not because I thought what he said was so funny (even though it was)....but because I had a lot to drink and could not remember the last time, I got slapped in the face 9 times in 1 minute by a man's dreads and necklaces simultaneously.

At that moment in time, I knew there was an evolution of Lil' Baby Waynes out here. I had one on my hands that evening and there were more out there...waiting to wreak havoc on young women every where.

If you are wondering what defines a Lil' Baby Wayne read below, so that you may avoid them as well:

Lil' Baby Wayne - (noun) 1. a child man over the age of 18 years old. 2. one who lacks maturity, judgement, and commendable qualities. 3. a male with  platinum on his teeth that cost more than your 30 year mortgage. 4. a man who wears shades in night clubs and bars. 5. one that wears diamonds in his ears and on his fingers bigger than the ones Elizabeth Taylor and J.Lo have in their jewelry boxes combined. 6. a male with more ink on his body than seen on the cover of The New York Times. 7. one who is not as cool as he believes himself to be. 8. one with a false sense of pride. 9. a male whore who runs rampid through the streets having unprotected sex with women. 10. a sperm donor who has multiple children and baby mama's due to running rampid through the streets. 11. a reckless person who has been to jail on one or more occasion. 12. a male who likes to swing his long ass dreads repeatedly in your face and eye balls to get your attention. 13 one who is persistent and pushy and refuses to accept that no means no. 14. one who harasses you for your phone number standing atop a booth in VIP. 15. a male who refuses to stop talking until you flash your 'I will choke you with those dreads' stare.

* Please keep in mind that Lil' Baby Waynes come in various ages, sizes, ethnicities, and cultural backgrounds. Be ware.

Reason #11 - That I Respect Steve Harvey

Steve Harvey's ex-wife is raising all types of hell in the media.

Homegirl sounds angry as hell!

Apparently her anger stems from their marriage years ago. I am not sure the specifics of what she is talking to the press about...but it had something to do with her claims about Steve Harvey cheating on her with his current wife. So, he basically has no business writing self-help books.

And to be honest. I was not that interested in this story at all. I saw her picture and she looked like a crazy bitter woman, and I just hate reading about stories like these.

Now, there is a good chance her accusation is true. But why did she have to go scream it out at the top of her lungs to anyone who would listen? Like a lunatic. He may very well be a cheater, but it still makes her look crazy.

She looks really bad.

In response to all of the commotion she has been causing lately, this is what Steve Harvey had to say:

"My father always taught me, he'd say, ‘Son, there's three sides to every story—there's their side, your side and the truth.' I know the truth. My son is coming into the room crying. And that's what hurts me, why you would do this. And I don't even understand the purpose. I mean, I got you're mad, but [she's talking about] 12 years ago. That's what we're doin' now? The truth's gonna come out. Because once you go public, you allow people to start asking questions…I'm just more concerned about my son, who I happen to have total custody of. He doesn't deserve the questions. I've been famous a long time. I've dealt with this all before…But things will be dealt with in the proper fashion this time. A lot of it's lies. I don't want nobody to do nothing. Here's my job as a father to my son: I have taught him to just be respectful of his mother and women overall. What he can't do is see me making particular accusations and rants…and I'm not going to. It is still his mother and I'm his father, and it's my job to raise him right."

This letter is a reflection of someone who is respectful and smart, regardless of their history of monogamy.

So. This be the main reason I fucks with Steve Harvey and his big ol' veneers!

Ciroc Smooth Talk with Diddy

Has anyone really listened to what this Damn Diddy says in any of these Ciroc commercials?

I am no Diddy fan but these commercials are hilarious! His PR people were clever in making him appear to be a funny human being because in real life, not only is he not funny but you can tell he has no sense of humor. The type of 'no sense of humor' that is partly due to the fact that he's not smart enough to get the joke.

I love how in one of these clips he says, "Ladies, open-toe shoes: make sure they fit. If your feet are hanging over the front....it means your feet are too big. And it scares me."

[laughing while shaking my head in shame]

Asshole.

I must defend the strong ladies all over the world who are guilty of wearing heels that do not fit their feet!

First of all, why do 'HER' feet have to be too big for her shoes? Why can't these shoes be too small for her feet? If she wears a size 6 in shoes, but was determined to wear those hot pink Betsy Johnson heels in size 5.5. She doesn't exactly have gigantic hobbit feet, now does she?? And who is to say, she didn't stuff her feet into those 5.5 heels because they were the only ones left in her size and they were 60% off at Saks? One must learn to understand the importance of bargain shopping, and whether or not your big toe hanging slightly out of the peep toe is worth the purchase of the heel.

In my opinion, any woman who is willing to endure pain for a pair of beautiful shoes that do not fit very well is a determined woman.

So back the fuck off, Diddy!

The second item to point out, Diddy looks like a well-groomed chimpanzee with a S-Curl and a visible overbite! Plus, he is always making that 'ah duh droppey face' expression. Who the hell is he to make fun of anyone?? Yes, he is worth a lot of money! But he is still ugly, and money can't make fix you if you're ugly. I despise ugly people who make fun of others. Where do they get the nerve? I really do believe that this is what happens to 3s (like Diddy) who walk around with 10s (like J.Lo) on their arms. They become delusional about who they are because of whom they associated themselves with over time.

The third matter to address, if Diddy is insinuating that a woman with big feet is a she-man, then he is just wrong! Especially, when there has been numerous rumors floating around for years that Diddy likes to hit up gay clubs and mess with boys. I'm pretty sure these boys have large feet too. He probably secretly likes to suck on men's big toes. He looks like a freak hoe!

My last comment on this shoe matter, since when did 'real' men pay attention to the shoes that women wear? That strikes me as a bit odd when I hear men crack on the way women dress. I don't know a lot of straight men who do this. But if men are making fun of a woman, it is usually because she looks certifiably crazy. I.e. - she looks pyschotic in the face or she is wearing something inappropriate for her large body frame. It has nothing to do with what she is wearing on her feet or how she is wearing them. Other than those possible scenarios, since when did men stare so intently at women's feet that they noticed her big toe hanging out of her shoe? An even more puzzling question than this one, since when did it stop a man from pursuing a woman?

Somebody tell me!

Who has ever heard a man say to his guy friends, "Oh, I'm not messing with Crystal. Did you see how her toes hung out of those stilettos? Oh, hell naw! I'm not taking those feet home with me tonight, nope."

Not me! From a straight man anyway.

That is all I have to say!

For Colored Girls Who Committ Suicide When the Rainbow is Not Enough

WOW!

Is all I can say about that movie. I have a migraine from holding in my cry, not to interrupt other movie goers.

It was passionate, raw, and real.

Kimberly Ellise, Thandie Newton, Phylicia Rashad , and Whoppi Goldberg were my favorite characters in the movie. If they don't get nominated for an award...then the hell with the Academy members because they all deserve one! Period.

I don't want to give the movie away, but it was good.

Tyler Perry did make the men in the movies look like monsters, this is true. But truth be told, there are real monsters out there...that come in many shapes and forms that include men and women too.

The women were all beautiful and damaged, and I loved them with all their imperfections. These imperfections made them beautiful and strong. I never thought it possible to hate and love a character at the same time, but Tyler Perry made me feel that way.

In the end they spoke about the word, 'sorry.' How that word attached to more words, affected them in a way that has shaped their very being.

My final thought after seeing the movie?

Is Tyler Perry gay? Or just a woman trapped in a man's body? How can this man be so accurate in depicting the feelings of women in such an authentic way? Unless you are a woman.

We're not the easiest creatures to understand or read. Or even love. What part of his male being allows him to sympathize with us the way he does? And while I know most men will watch the film, and scold him for depicting them like devils, Perry went ahead and produced this film anyway.

At the end of the day, he could probably care less about how he depicts black folks in his movies. Especially, when him and his wallet sleep just fine at night.

Kanye and Bush

I'm not sure if any of you know where I am going with this one, but I just have to say it! Even if it is the end of our friendship.

Kanye West and George Bush are both idiots with a lot in common!

I wonder if Bush's peers look at him, the same way we look at Kanye West? Now, I won't assume you all think of Kanye West as your peer. But don't act, like you don't know what I mean!

Kanye West can best be describes as an embarrassment to the following groups: African Americans, Intellectuals, Democrats, musicians, artists, mothers, ex-girlfriends, and pop culture society.

While George Bush can best be described as an embarrassment to the following groups: Americans (all nationalities), Intellectuals, Republicans, his daughters/nieces, Harvard, and many people in Texas who remain silent.

Everyone thinks that Kanye West is so inspirational. He knows how to make connections to many people in this nation. He is not the nicest or most articulate person, but for some reason people still show compassion for him. When he stole Taylor Swifts thunder at the MTV Music Awards and received the 'Chris Brown' treatment for months, people started to feel bad for him. Many started making excuses for him, "Oh, he was drunk!" "He was just being Kanye." "He's just young and foolish." "He's just arrogant." Everyone and their mother called him an idiot, but still sympathized for him.

Now.

If you plug-in Bush's name above, can you identify some of the similarities between them?

Bush is respected by many Republicans and people in the oil business too. He's not articulate either, despite a Harvard education. I mean, you would have thought him a 'college drop-out.' Ha! He started a war that our military had no business fighting in overseas. Then 9-11 happened....Hurricane Katrina came after it. His response to helping New Orleans was appalling to anybody with a beating heart. Yet people still symphathized for him as well. "He was in shock." "He didn't know what to do." "He had little control over things in office, that was his cabinet who handled it!" "He is an alcoholic." "His father made him that way."

Why must people make excuses for two of the country's biggest idiots?

Kanye thinks Bush hates black people. Bush thinks that Kanye calling him a racist was one of the most horrible moments for him in office.

Please.

Both of them are a joke! They are arrogant and self-centered. They spew out nonsense without thinking it through in their minds. They are too rich to know how to connect with people anymore. They are surrounded by too many enablers. And chances are, they could be the best of friends...if Kanye could look past the fact that he destroyed our economy and created additional enemies for us...and Bush could look past the fact that he said he hates black people and didn't vote for him.

I can't stand either one of them. But they should hug it out. Then go sit their asses down in a damn corner somewhere until we say, "it's time to get up."

I am that tired of hearing them talk. Just mean, I know.