Why a Divorce Party is a No

After watching Jen from Basketball Wives partake in a divorce party, my girl and I decided that it's just not an appropriate celebration.

Why?

Because marriage is a sacred vow that we make in the presence of God. It should never be taken lightly under any circumstances. We promised to be with each other until death parts us. To love and honor one another. Never lie. Put each other first before anyone else in our life.

So.

Given all the vows made during your wedding ceremony. You mean to tell me that having a divorce party is a good idea?

If you said, yes.

Should it be okay to have an abortion party too then? With a dead fetus cake topper?

Of course not!

Because it's stupid and NO ONE looks good in the end.

Having a divorce party not only shows that you didn't respect your former partner. It shows that you didn't respect your union either...and you resorted to mocking it.

I mean.

The purpose is to celebrate the end of what you believe was a huge mistake in your life, no?

Okay.

But why? Because you're free now of this person? Still nothing to be proud about doing in your life.

In the end you became another statistic!

I am a bitch for saying it. But guess what? It's true.

There is nothing to be proud of!

Not many people want to date divorced individuals either. You have too much baggage and issues...and having a divorce party capitalizes on your marital problems. It's like telling everyone, "Wow, my marriage was so bad that I need some drinks and cake to celebrate the end with my friends. Woo! Man it hurts so bad that I am going to celebrate until I stop feeling embarrassed that my fucking marriage failed! At least this party makes me look awesome."

Sike!

Making your ex-husband the headless cake topper with red jelly oozing out of him is creepy. Having a pinata that is a replica of him and bashing it until it bursts open with condoms and party favors is actually pretty creative. Haha! I must admit.
It really is....but then really crazy when you think about it for a while.

A divorce party with these activities are funny. Absolutely! It's hysterical! Especially, when your ex-husband had a permanent lump on his forehead that you made sure was replicated in the miniature version cake topper of him. Creating a miniature version cake topper of him in his basketball uniform colors and number is hilarious too.

But does this show that you are in a good place?

No.

It only shows that you hate your ex-spouse. You're not over it. You want to beat him down with a stick. Just like how you did to that funny looking pinata with the big ass lumpy head.

Seriously!

What ever happened to to the days of divorcing and then re-evaluating your life? Quietly. Or making peace with yourself and your ex? Then calling it a day.

Now.

I do know what it is to despise an ex-boyfriend. How hard it is to get to a place where you can forgive and move forward too.

But why put all your time and energy into having  a party that bashes them? Or mocks your former union? The same union that you took seriously at one point in time.

It's just incredibly stupid. Celebrating that big mistake you made with the wrong person. Sitting in a party room with catered food laughing about it with your friends, like it's a bar mitzvah.

Mind you! This ex probably isn't using half the energy you are in celebrating the end of your union.

So.

Why are you again?

Straight up!

A divorce party is a horrible coping mechanism. I think therapy is too. It makes no sense to sit in a room with a stranger talking about how sad you are about your life. You won't do any living in that room! You're just re-hashing the same problem over and over again. It's pointless.

You want to get over your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend?

Go take a vacation somewhere. Go shopping! Get a tattoo or a hair cut. Find a new love! Go to church and pray. Get a new hobby. Eat good food! Masturbate. Or not if you are a prude. Take this time to make your wish list come true. Then enjoy!

These activities are a better alternative to a divorce party and healthier ways to move on too.